Saturday, June 8, 2013
New Post: "Why Our Expectations Go Unmet"
What is fairness?
Who determines what is fair?
Have you made a decision about what you will tolerate in life?
That is likely your own personal definition of what is “fair” for you.
But what happens when things go awry?
When things fall-apart for whatever reason,
how do you decide to handle the times
when life is absolutely “unfair”?
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
and He will make straight your paths.
The subtlety of that verse means so much to me.
Have you ever “unpacked” it?
It seems I can always learn a new way to see and understand through it.
such as... when my expectations go unmet,
it may be part of God’s plan.
I didn’t expect to go to prison for my crime.
In other states, it was a misdemeanor,
and thus required no times spent behind bars.
Was is fair?
But that is the difference in what I expect when I returned to God.
He doesn’t give me what I want just because I recommit myself,
God gives me what I need most -
a deeper relationship with Him.
From there, what happens?
Then God works out all things for the good of those who love Him!
How did it unfold in my life?
Instead of (50)fifty-months of incarceration,
I was released in (18)eighteen-months.
Was it fair?
I cannot say, because I put my trust in the Lord,
and not in my own expectations.
How does it look in your life?
Do you put all your effort into “acquiring”?
We often spend our time trying to acquire more...
either more influence, money, possessions, sex,
or in my case I could have put more effort in acquiring my own freedom.
But instead, I put my effort into “becoming”.
I learned that I could trust God more,
if I learned to walk more closely with Him.
I became a faithful servant, doing what He asked,
even if it wasnt what I wanted most.
Because my idea of fairness had already lead me down the wrong path.
Could I trust myself in the future to make the best choices?
Or should I trust more in the God who loves me...
beyond what I believe I deserve?
Because that is what God does,
loving each of us beyond that which we could ever earn.
Now I put my efforts into becoming a better follower of Christ,
a better husband, father, mentor, friend, employee, and co-worker.
And then I see the fruit of what God is allowed to do in me,
because I give up my expectations to rely more completely on Him.
Who do you rely on most?
Will the government give you what you expect?
Will other people?
Can you do it yourself?
So I turn to the One who can.What will you do?